Tension Land

How long can you withstand that moment of tension right before you reach your edge?

When I began working with my pleasure, I could sense an urgency each time. If only I get the next best sensation THIS time, I will achieve a new space of orgasmic release. Little did I realize I was never chasing the O but rather moments before when everything is on pins and needles in the most delicious way.

I now recognize the yearning, the ripples of ecstasy that rush through, seeking just a little more... they are the ones we want to entertain more.

If we begin to collect the moments that bring us pure delight such as the aroma of coffee or the look of a fresh clean room or the sunlight reflecting off hair or spending a slow day at the spa, we attune our nervous system to relaxing for sustained periods of time. Add a little touch of erotic pleasure, like moaning sensually when getting massaged or hanging out naked in the living room, and suddenly the practice of feeling safe during relaxation merges with arousal.